Your Manager Doesn’t Come with a User Manual (But You Can Totally Write One)

Your manager is like legacy code: you didn't write it, but it's your problem. Learn how to debug the relationship by co-authoring a user manual for working together.

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Why great technologists often become poor managers

A common pitfall in the tech industry is promoting individuals for their technical skills rather than their leadership abilities, leading to communication breakdowns.

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Your manager doesn't come with a user manual

Instead of expecting your manager to have all the answers, you should proactively co-author a relationship agreement to define how you will work together.

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Shift from working for to working with your manager

Use empathy and emotional intelligence to understand your manager's goals, stressors, and communication preferences to build a true partnership.

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Build professional trust by showing vulnerability

Vulnerability is not a weakness but a powerful tool for building trust quickly by admitting mistakes, asking for help, or sharing personal context.

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Use proactive communication to prevent misunderstandings

Bridge the anxiety gap by providing frequent status updates and clarifying conflicting priorities to prevent guesswork and stress for both you and your manager.

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Take ownership of your career growth conversations

Use one-on-one meetings strategically by setting the agenda and scheduling separate, dedicated time to discuss your career aspirations and development needs.